6 ways to deal with a breakup

Getting dumped seriously, seriously sucks. But suddenly becoming single again has its merits, and life does go on.

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Hopefully none of you experienced the dreaded Thanksgiving turkey dump. But if you did, don't worry about a thing. As someone who’s been broken up with many, many times, I know it's not the end of the world. And I'm here to give you some of my foolproof ways to help you get back on your feet.

1. Work on yourself

Prioritize yourself! Love yourself! Being alone for the first time in a while is a tough one, and it might make you feel like you lost a huge part of yourself. But what better way to replenish that by refilling that other half yourself? There are so many ways to work on yourself: you can work out, find a new beauty regimen, or discover a new passion project! You now have time to devote to the most important person in your life: yourself!

2. Block them from your social media

If you’ve ever used the three monkey emojis, then you’re already familiar with the phrase, “see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil.” And even though I’m not saying that your now-ex is evil by any means, if it hurts to see them out and about with their life, it might be worthwhile to block them for a while. In addition to not seeing them, cutting off contact might be a good idea too.

Facebook puts you through a whole different algorithm when you set your relationship status back to “single,” and you can always remove friends from Snapchat or briefly unfollow someone on Instagram. The break from seeing your ex from your social media feeds will definitely help you cleanse yourself from them and, eventually, move past the breakup.

3. Organize your space

Don’t only cleanse yourself of that person but cleanse your entire environment. Get rid of old trinkets they gave you, or put everything that reminds you of them away in a safe place. This includes pictures, stuffed animals, any jewellery, and so on.  If you're the kind of person who feels closure after getting rid of things, then go ahead and completely rid yourself of anything that reminds you of your ex.

4. Hang out with your friends

Strength in numbers! This is probably one of the best ways to cope with a breakup. Someone once told me, “significant others come and go but friends stay forever." True friends will stick with you through good times and bad. Get your mind off of your ex-boo by taking the time to go to the movies, for a walk, or anything else you and your crew like to do to get your mind off of your ex-boo. Good friends will also let you talk about your true feelings without passing judgement.

5. Give it time

As much as I believe these methods will help you get over your relationship, the only thing that actually does make a difference is time. Don't get impatient—feeling like yourself again isn't going to happen overnight.

6. Talk to the pros

If you feel like you need to talk to someone about your breakup, you can make an appointment with a health care professional in Halifax or Truro, or use one of the available online support resources.